If you are no stranger to hookup blogs, you have likely run across a particular blog touting its research-based advice as an intelligent approach to hookups. Sadly, the main theory pushed by the author is the idea of Sexual Marketplace Value (SMV). Meaning, each one us has a specific sexual value within the realm of a sort-of sexual exchange.
Great lengths have been taken to over-intellectualize the dynamics of such a marketplace, but it basically boils down to the sexual desirability of an individual or group (i.e. women in their 30's).
So twenty-something Suzy might be an 8 because she works out, has good hygiene, dresses nice, and regularly does her hair and makeup, though she isn't the most naturally beautiful girl. Meanwhile Frida is a 6 because, even though she is young, has good hygiene, and generally looks presentable, she doesn't exercise regularly and has been known go without makeup more often than not.
Apparently, in addition to factors such as age, hygiene, and looks, the value can go up or down based on past sexual experience (too much is generally not good), current relationship status (having a cute boyfriend makes one's value go up), and the type of "market" in which you are competing (college vs. high school, urban area vs. rural area, etc.).
While it may seem intelligent and trendy to classify sexuality this way, such an ideology is demeaning to all of us- reducing you and I to nothing more than a commodity to be bought and sold.
I don't know about you but I certainly think of myself as more than just a "product" available in a "marketplace." We are, after all, complex beings, complete with thoughts, feelings, intentions, struggles, hurts, baggage, dreams, and passions. We are the most unique beings on the planet, drastically different from any other creatures in existence. The Sexual Marketplace Value view nullifies all of that.
It takes the mystery and excitement out of human beings and relationships, ignoring all of the unique intricacies which make us human.
This point of view is especially sad to those who believe we are made in the image of God. To think precious creatures, such are we are, made in God's image and yet no two the same, are nothing more than merchandise for sale to the highest bidder deeply troubles the soul and hurts my heart. I hope it troubles you too.
Don't believe the lie that your sexuality culminates in nothing more than an SMV!
You are so much more. God has so much more for you. He has someone special in mind just for you. Think of how much hope that brings as compared to feeling like you have to compete in some demeaning and heartless contest for the attention of the opposite sex. Like we don't have enough pressures in this life already.
Do yourself a favor, don't buy into this Sad Point of View and learn to see the value of your sexuality from God's eyes. You'll be glad you did!
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